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Am I sinning? 
The common sense answer to your question is, Yes, you are committing the sins of adultery and fornication when you sneak around behind your wife's …

Do you have any advice for a bisexual in Nebraska? 
We invite our readers to offer kind-hearted comments and advice to encourage this bisexual reader from Nebraska. Post comments here. "I did not …

Which Bible translation is gay and transgender friendly? 
For English speaking people, the best translation is the King James Version. It is not anti-gay and it never uses the word homosexual. That said, I think …

How should I deal with my transgender feelings? 
That’s an interesting question. When God saves us nothing in the Bible indicates that He changes our gender identity or our sexual orientation. Our …

How can pais mean male lover when Jesus is called a pais in Matthew 12:18? 
That’s a good question. The Greek word pais carries a range of meanings depending on the context in which it is used. Pais can refer to an infant, …

Why did God call men having sex with each other an abomination? 
You've asked some interesting questions which deserve honest answers. "Why did God call men having sex with men an abomination?" The verse you're referring …

Dude, do you really believe the Bible is true? 
Yes, I believe the Bible is true history in which God reveals Himself to the human race. It has been my experience that most people who do not believe …

How do I find a good gay affirming church? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Finding a good Bible-believing church which welcomes gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people is not easy. As gay …

Are gay relationships always outside God's created order? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - I received several rather long communications from a conservative preacher kindly pointing out that since gay couples …

Saved from what exactly? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Great question and I'm happy for the opportunity to answer. Everyone born on earth is born with great opportunities and …

Isn't the Bible pretty clear that gay marriage is wrong? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - I think you've asked a fair question which deserves an unequivocal response. The answer is NO, to be perfectly honest, …

Could King David have been bisexual instead of gay? 
I believe it is entirely possible that King David and Crown Prince Jonathan were bisexual instead of gay. Both men married women and both fathered children …

Can bisexuals have a wife and a husband at the same time? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Your question touches on the issue of Christian discipleship - obeying God even when obedience is difficult. While you …

Are you misquoting scripture about Jonathan and David? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Thanks Beau, for asking some good questions. I'm happy to provide answers which are faithful to Biblical truth. "“And …

Did the scribes and Pharisees know that Jesus was their Messiah? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Thanks for asking such an interesting question. I do not agree that it is implicit in the gospels that the scribes and …

Did people in ancient times celebrate the Saturday sabbath? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Thanks for asking such an interesting question. The answer is, in ancient times Jewish people celebrated Shabbat, the …

Is Jesus God or the Son of God? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - That's a great question! Jesus IS God in the flesh AND He is also the eternal Son of God. This belief is based on the …

I have never heard of this teaching at all. 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - This email conversation with Lisa, who is shocked by this website, began here and continues below. Lisa writes: …

I came across this website by accident and am shocked... 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - I offer this email exchange because it is typical of the hundreds of emails I get from Christians who take me to task …

Does Isaiah 56:4-5 speak of born eunuchs and/or gay people? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - What an intriguing question! My answer is Yes, because I understand Isaiah 56:4-5 to be referring to all three classes …

Is being gay or lesbian a gift from God? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - That's an interesting question. No, I do not view being gay or lesbian as a gift from God in the sense of being a spiritual …

Get your point across without deceit. God hates liers, too. 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Thanks for emailing me with your concerns. Its always interesting to read emails from readers. Your first email from Australia, …

Why does the prison population have a higher percentage of homosexuals? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - That's a good question. Jump to Thomas' original question. The short answer is that engaging in homosexual acts doesn't …

How did you decide that the Ethiopian eunuch in Acts 8 was homosexual? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - I appreciate your good question. After the Ethiopian eunuch expressed believing faith in Jesus Christ, Philip did not …

Did the Holy Spirit really speak to you as it says in your Coming Out story? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - That's a very good question. When I describe my Coming Out and the experience of praying for God's guidance as I studied …

Was Jesus a member of the first century religious group called Nazarenes? 
No, Jesus was not a member of the Nazorean or Nazarene sect. We could refer to Jesus as a Nazarene because at one time he lived in the tiny country …

What are practical ways to change the anti-gay bias of evangelical Christians? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Here are some suggestions for action. Start a blog or website to advocate your views. Blogger and Wordpress are free. …

If I become a Christian, will I be a hypocrite for still loving my gay friends? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Thanks for asking such a timely question. I'm glad to know you are interested in becoming a Christian. Getting saved …

Why is it biblically wrong for a heterosexually married gay person to have a gay relationship outside of marriage? 
Used by permission of slapupsidethehead.com Rick Brentlinger Answers - You've asked an interesting question. We know that polygamy, a man having …

Is John 4:46-53 the same story as the centurion and pais in Matthew 8 and Luke 7? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - That's an intriguing question. There are similarities which on the surface, cause us to wonder if the Bible is describing …

How can you convince people that the Bible has errors? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - If I understand your question correctly, you are asking, How can we convince people that the Bible has errors and God …

What is your honest opinion on the Illuminati conspiracy? 
I became aware of the Illuminati and other alleged conspiracies in 1967 when as a sophomore in high school, I read Rose L. Martin's interesting book, …

What does God really say about gay relationships? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Dominique wrote: "So many people have told me that I will go straight to hell because I am gay and in a relationship …

Does the Bible say anything about gays and lesbians? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - There are some verses known as the clobber passages, which are alleged to mention and condemn gays and lesbians. You can …

What can I do when my heart is torn between a man and a woman? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Ashley wrote: "I'm a Christian and I'm trying so hard to be straight but I can't find passion with a man and I can't find …

Are the words of Jesus in Matthew, Mark and Luke more important than the decision of the apostles in Acts 15? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Jesus was the Word in human flesh - "In the begining was the Word , and the Word was with God, and the Word …

What about bisexuals and stepping out of a heterosexual marriage for male sex on the side? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Recently I received these questions from two married men who, though married, also struggle with same sex attraction. Both …

Does the Bible say anything about Lone Ranger Christians? 
Everyone loves the rugged individualism of the Lone Ranger. Spiritual Lone Rangers are becoming common today, especially among GLBT Christians who've quit …

What advice do you have for a Mormon who is heterosexually married and struggling with gay feelings? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Thank you for sharing your story with such honesty. Go directly to Moremanlee's story. The only way I can answer is …

Can I love gays and lesbians and still view their lifestyle as sinful? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Recently a non-gay Christian asked me that question. Here is my answer. Your Comments welcome. To answer your question, …

Is the Pre-Trib Rapture of the Church sound Bible doctrine? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - I received some questions recently, which I will answer with a brief overview of the Pre-Tribulation Rapture plus Links …

I'm a gay Christian and I have some questions. 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Jay writes: "I used to read all these anti-gay Bible verses and feel guilty and shameful. However, thanks to your website, …

Why didn't David kill King Saul when he had the opportunity? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers- Anonymous Christian continues: "Instead David only cut off a piece of clothing from Saul's robe. Why did Saul go so …

A Life of Frustration 
"Hi. I need help because I don't see any way out. I remember that from the age of 9 or 10 years old, when my friends starting talking about girls, …

What does the Bible say about masturbation and mutual masturbation? 
Ray writes: "I grew up in the Catholic Church and was told that masturbation is a sin. I have researched and discovered masturbation is never mentioned …

What does it mean to believe in Jesus? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Excellent question Sajal. Many people have no idea how to believe in Jesus to get saved. The Bible says, "Believe on …

If you could go back to Biblical times, where would you go and why? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - I would go back to the time of Jonathan and David, around 1000 BC. I have always been fascinated by Israel as she transitioned …

What makes you so sure your interpretation of Scripture is correct? 
1. Because the complementarian interpretation of Genesis 2:24, that God only blesses an Adam and Eve type of marriage, one man with one woman, is not …

Why has God allowed His word to be so misinterpreted regarding homosexuality? 
We are human beings who serve the God of truth. In fact, our God IS the Truth, John 14:6. Yet God's people frequently get things wrong. This troubling …

What about other scriptures? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers 1. Scott asked: What about the scripture that "man shall not lie with man as with a woman?" You are referring to Leviticus …

If God intended for homosexual relationships to exist, would this not be seen in all forms of life, i.e. animals? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers God made human beings as the crowning jewel of His creation. We are not highly evolved animals. We possess a spiritual dimension …

Was the centurion really gay and if so, why did Paul speak against homosexuality? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - A centurion in Bible times was a non-com officer in the Roman Army (kind of like a gunny sergeant in the Marine Corps today), …

What does the Bible say about being forced to be saved and what verse can I find it in? 
Calvinists - people who follow the teaching of the Protestant Reformer John Calvin - also known as Monergists, teach that God does "force" people to …

What does the Bible say about polygamy and open relationships? 
Polygamy in the Bible was a Biblical family value first mentioned in Genesis 4:19. Some but not all ancient Biblical heroes lived in polygamous marriages …

Are Christians allowed to go against what the Old Testament says including worship of false gods and committing murder? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers For 2000 years, consistent Christian teaching is that we are not under the Old Testament Law. Yet Christians have …

What is the meaning
of Leviticus 22-30?
 
Leviticus was written to the children of Israel as they prepared to enter the promised land. Thirteen times God and Moses say that Leviticus is for …

How can I be African American, a woman and lesbian at church? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - That's a wonderful question. I hope our readers will add their wisdom and suggestions to this page. I've invited my …

How can a gay man in Ghana, West Africa, find friends and possibly a partner? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Thanks for the good question Philip. Building close friendships is an important part of building a successful life. …

What does Galatians 5:19 mean? 
"Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness," -Galatians 5:19 The first three …

If we know that homosexuality is sin, shouldn't we speak the truth? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers Your question is based on a false premise, that according to the Bible, homosexuality is sin. You claim to know that homosexuality …

How can anyone believe God authorized genocide? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Thanks for such an interesting question. My answer is that God did not authorize genocide. Genocide is a recent word coined …

Does December 21, 2012 and the Mayan Calendar have anything to do with the Christian Rapture? 
Thanks for the good question about the Mayan calendar and the rapture. Using the Mayan Calendar to date the Rapture is, in my opinion, an exercise in …

Does “be fruitful and multiply” cancel gay marriage? 
This question comes up frequently so I’ll once again provide a brief answer. Your question rests on three faulty assumptions. Faulty assumption …

Are you 100% sure that God allows homosexuality among Christians? 
You’re asking the indubitability question, related to Descartes, 1596-1650, and the Cartesian school of thought. Indubitable truth is truth that cannot …

Can you recommend a good one volume Bible commentary? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - That's an excellent question. I applaud your interest in learning and studying the Bible. Here are six one volume Bible …

Does Matthew 19 refer to one's spirit being married to Christ? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - When I approach Matthew 19, I read the text literally, taking it at face value instead of spiritualizing it. When events …

Isn't cussing a bad habit? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Yes, cussing is bad and is often a habit. While working my way through college, I had a boss and a co-worker who had world-class …

What does the Bible say about church discipline? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Thanks for asking such a good question. What your church did is called "church discipline." When properly administered …

How can a married transgender M2F honor God? 
Thank you for writing to us. I am blessed by your desire to honor God with your life. While I don't have any magic answers which will make everything …

How do gays fit into sex roles and gay parenthood? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - You've asked an interesting question that can be answered in many ways. Readers are invited to provide your own answers, …

What advice can you give two guys just starting a new relationship? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Here is the advice I wrote to a friend who was enjoying the wonderful beginnings of a new relationship. I hope something …

What about John 1:1? 
John 1:1 has been attacked as much as any verse in the Bible because some people hate the scriptural truth that Jesus is God in the flesh, 1 Timothy 3:16. …

Why is the Bible not explicit about David and Jonathan? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Jump to Thomas' original question. Thanks for asking a question that has intrigued believers for hundreds of years. …

Did Jesus say anything about same sex lovers being sin? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - You've asked some interesting questions. Jump to Dawn's original questions. Its perfectly natural for some women …

Why do I feel like coming out would be the end of the world? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Great question! Coming out can be a scary thing because you don't know how people you care about will react. And sometimes …

When did the Jews make the Exodus from Egypt? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Moses led Israel out of Egypt around 1445 BC. We arrive at that answer based on two important verses of scripture, Judges …

How do I know if me and my boyfriend have been joined by God? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - That's an excellent question Dominique. The Bible tells us: “examine yourselves whether you are in the faith." 2 Corinthians …

Can you give some practical advice about gay relationships? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Here's a list I found several years ago, which I've revised for use here. In successful relationships, the gay or lesbian …

Did David have wives before or after his partnership with Jonathan? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Excellent question Bonita! The Bible shows David and Jonathan meeting when David was a teenager, approximately 15 years to …

What do you think about civil unions? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - I strongly support same sex civil unions AND gay marriage rights. Current marriage traditions of western civilization are …

Is there a good website where someone can find a local church that is gay friendly? 
Great question. Yes, there are a number of websites which provide information about gay and lesbian churches, gay friendly churches, gay affirming churches …

Are there any scriptures in the Bible which validate the existence of humans or other forms of intelligent life on other planets? 
"I had a conversation the other day with a Christian friend about God's creation. He pointed out that God created humans, angels, demons, and the fallen …

How can I be a witness for Jesus Christ and salvation? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - Jesus was God in human flesh. He claimed to be God and the Jews to whom He preached understood that He claimed to be …

Are gay Christian views about homosexuality special revelation for these latter days? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers - The gay Christian view of homosexuality is based on the historical understanding written down by Jewish prophets and …

Is there generally a certain denomination or church that marries homosexual couples? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers Gay marriages are performed by some Welcoming Baptist Churches, some United Church of Christ Churches, some Conservative …

If you were GOD would you bless the life you're living in all you say and do according to GOD'S law? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers You've asked an important question which causes every serious Christian to examine himself. Blessing is based on grace, …

Do you agree that lesbians and gays deserve equal rights? 
Rick Brentlinger Answers Yes, I strongly support equal rights under the law for gays and lesbians. These pages of Gay Christian 101 deal with equal …


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