How do I find a good gay affirming church?

by Wes
(Niagara area, Ontario, Canada)

photo by Magnus Rosendahl

photo by Magnus Rosendahl

Rick Brentlinger Answers -

Finding a good Bible-believing church which welcomes gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people is not easy. As gay Christians who face the difficulty of finding the right church, there are some things we can do.

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First, we need to pray about it regularly, consistently. It is God's responsibility to answer our prayers. When we pray with a believing heart, God always answers, if not immediately then eventually.

Second, we need to pray specifically. Ask God to lead you to the right church in your area or to provide a better car so you can drive to Toronto to locate a church.

Third, while you are searching, be careful to keep up your daily quiet time with the Lord, your daily prayer life and spending time in the Bible.

Once you find the right church, its still your responsibility to feed yourself spiritually. Even in the best church, you can't get enough spiritual food to keep you going. All of us need to study on our own too.

Learn to read, study and obey the Bible under the leading of the Holy Spirit. GC101 has Bible study resources for eDisciples and a Bible Studies page.

Fourth, ask the Lord to bring into your life other Christians including GLBT Christians with whom you can have fellowship and perhaps small group Bible studies in your area. Having Christian friends, especially gay Christian friends who love God, will help your spiritual life.

Fifth, remember that true Christian discipleship is not easy yet God walks with you on the dark hills, through every difficulty you face. Many Christians get discouraged and quit when they encounter opposition and the going gets tough.

God will sustain you in the middle of defeat, discouragement and disappointment if you will cast your burdens on Him.
"Cast your burden on the LORD and he will sustain you." -Psalm 55:22

"Casting all your care upon him for he cares for you." -1 Peter 5:7

Sixth, here are links to additional information which may help you as you search for the right church. God bless you abundantly.

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Original Question:

"I have left the denomination i grew up in as i am out and not willing to attend where i would be consider a 'sinner" and not welcome (because I'm openly gay).

I can't seem to find an affirming church in my area that is also interesting and has a reasonable amount of gay christians it. A couple of churches have indicated "you are welcome here" but a hidden agenda of change occurs after a while (i.e. be gay but not active or in a relationship).

I feel very isolated and alone in my faith, not sure what to do. I have checked online listings of affirming churches and none in my area. I don't want to drive to Toronto (a long way and my car is a beater)."

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