What advice do you have for a Mormon who is heterosexually married and struggling with gay feelings?
God gives us grace to be faithful
Rick Brentlinger Answers -
Thank you for sharing your story with such honesty. Go directly to Moremanlee's story.
The only way I can answer is to be honest with you in return. God has a purpose for your life which involves your eternal salvation.
For that reason, the first thing
to do is make absolutely sure of your own personal salvation. The starting point for dealing with God is to know FOR SURE
that you are saved. Nothing is more important than that.
These Links are a good place to start, to know for sure that you are saved and that your salvation is forever.
The second thing
- Understand the reality of hell.
- Understand Who Jesus is according to the Bible.
- Understand what it means to repent of your sins.
- Understand how to be saved according to the Bible.
- Understand that once you are saved, your salvation is forever.
- Understand why Christians are not under the Law of Moses in the Old Testament.
to do is make up your mind that as long as you are married to your wife, you will be faithful to her. That means not having gay affairs on the side. The Bible is clear that adultery is wrong. Jesus encourages husbands to be faithful to their wives, Mark 10:8, Matthew 5:27-28, 19:5.
For a slightly different view of this issue, here is a very similar question and answer. Why is it biblically wrong for a heterosexually married gay person to have a gay relationship outside of marriage?
Jesus said: "Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." -Matthew 5:27-28
I am not a professional counselor so I am not qualified to advise you about why you struggle with same sex feelings. It is possible that some of your confusion is based on what happened to you as a child at the hands of your cousins.
I do know this. The God of the Bible is an awesome and faithful God. When we come to Him with an honest heart, seriously desiring an answer, He will answer. His answer may not be what we want to hear but His answer will always be what we need to hear.
Whatever conclusions you draw about staying with your wife and being a faithful Christian husband to her or deciding something different is a decision that should only be made after you get saved and she gets saved. Then you two can pray about your future together.The third thing
is to read the following information with an open mind and a believing heart. What you have been taught in the LDS church about salvation and God and Jesus is not the truth. The only way to find the truth about God is replace what you were taught in Mormonism with the absolute truth of the Bible.
I am praying for you and others who read this will also be praying for you that God will answer the cry of your heart, save you for all eternity and show you the path of His purpose for the rest of your life.
Excellent Information About 1. Mormonism and Bible Christianity compared side by side.
Mormonism and the Bible
Many LDS beliefs contradicts the Bible. For example, the God of Mormonism is not the God of the Bible and the Jesus of Mormonism is not the historical Jesus of the Bible. 2. Utah Lighthouse Ministries - the most extensive resources on the web about the history of Mormonism.3. Compare LDS claims with what the Bible says.4. Differences between Mormonism and Christianity.5. Answering Mormon beliefs from the Bible.6. Ed Decker, a former Mormon who got saved and Dr. Walter Martin on Mormonism and the Bible.
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"I am a Christian, I believe it with every fiber and life's blood of my being and with every part of my invisibility.We've answered the question about Mormonism. Click here to return to Gay Christian 101 Home Page.
I have studied with many faiths, including Islamic, Buddhist, and Hindu. I have been baptized and ordained to the High Priesthood of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon Church) and have born testimony of it's truly only divinely authorized Church of Jesus Christ on the Earth today.
My father was of the Church of England Church and my mother was baptized in the Re-organized Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints but claimed to be Presbyterian, They were married in the Methodist Church and sent us children to the Baptist Church for instruction.
My eldest sister became strong with the Anglican and taught Sunday School lessons, married there, and remains faithful there.
My other older sister was baptized in the Baptist and married in the Salvation Army and now practices with them.
My older brother became a preacher with the Baptist Assembly of God Church and has served eleven years with them as a missionary on the Island of Vanuatu and is faithful with them.
My younger sister just wants to worship God in her own way even though she was baptized into the Mormon Church after I baptized my parents into the Mormon Church, and my youngest sister is a Lesbian who won't have anything to do with religion.
My youngest brother says everything is OK as far as he is concerned and just wants to live and let live, though he says he believes in Christ and knows that the Mormon Church is the only true and authorized Church.
Since the age of 4 until now, I have had same sex attraction because of the persuasions of my teenage male cousins when I was so young, maybe. It must have been part of me to have continued with me, though I have tried desperately to shake it and suppress it and have sought counsel and therapy.
I am now married, and been faithful to the teachings of the Church until 1999 when I couldn't handle it any longer and kicked my second wife out of our home and began a gay relationship for four years. My partner was jailed for having committed a crime and so I went back to my second wife.
I love her and don't want to hurt her or leave her, but my attraction and desires for a gay relationship are more than I can bear at times.
What do you suggest that I do? I am at this time unable to attend with the Mormon Church as I am disfellowshiped and therefore attend with the Brethren Assembly where I have been welcomed but without the knowledge of my orientation and dare not make it known to them.
I have earnestly prayed for help, guidance, and inspiration from the Holy Spirit and have eventually ended up here with you.
After finding GayChristian101.com I have been ever so anxious to connect with people who have had experiences such as my own in life and what they have done may be of value to me in my predicament.
I have much of your information but not all and I will continue to study the rest of the information published on your website.
Your suggestions, ideas, and attention for me on this situation would be of great value to me at this time of frustration. God bless - you and your net work will always be in my prayers from now on."