How can a person be a Christian and gay at the same time?
by Cristino
(Toronto, Ontario, Canada)
Cristino writes:
"I was in the gay lifestyle for more than half of my life until I came to know Christ as my God and Saviour.
I repented of all my sins including sins of homosexuality, asked God's forgiveness and received Jesus as my God, Saviour and Deliverer.
With my daily walk with Christ, constant prayer, reading the Bible daily and I stayed away from the gay lifestyle and I fully surrender my life to Christ, amazing changes came into my life.
No longer I have the desire to go to gay places and I did not even watch the gay parade anymore because I know God is not present in such display of wickedness.
The transition period from gay to straight life I thought would be the hardest thing to do but because I fully surrender to Christ, I live now in peace and contentment.
I am happier now being with Christian people who are straight. My desire now is to serve Christ and proclaim His Gospel of salvation to all gay people I know.
I don't agree that a person can be a Christian and be gay at the same time. They contradict each other. The Bible is very clear that homosexuality is an abomination and now that I am a Christian I should abide in God's word, obey what He says in the Bible.
I did that before (being a Christian and gay at the same time) but I feel there is something wrong with it. As I read the Bible, I found out I can't serve two masters.
I have to choose so I chose Christ and abandoned the gay life and Christ himself says that not everyone who call Him Lord will enter the kingdom of God, only those who obey His will.
His will is not to commit sexual sins, homosexuality is included, Leviticus 20:13 and Romans 1:24-28 and 1st Corinthians 6:9.
It will be impossible for me to profess to know Christ but in my lifestyle I contradict His words.
A homosexual who truly repented will not go back to the gay lifestyle. He is a new creature in Christ, old things have passed away and all things become new, 2 Corinthians 5:17.
To be a Christian and gay at the same time is unbiblical.
Thanks. Cristino"
Rick Brentlinger Answers
Cristino, I praise God that you've trusted Jesus Christ as your Savior and that you have abandoned the sinful life you were living.
It is always cause for rejoicing when a sinner repents, receives Christ as Lord and Savior and discovers new life in Christ.
I think it is a mistake however, to conclude that your experience is the norm for every other gay or lesbian person.
And I think it is a mistake to assume that no one can be gay and Christian. Being a gay Christian is NOT about going to gay places or watching the gay pride parade or hanging out in bars.
Have you taken time to read the information on this website or in my book? I encourage you to read the scriptural information you'll find on this website.
I don't know exactly what kind of life you lived before you trusted Christ but I tend to think it involved serial immorality and drinking, perhaps illicit drugs, perhaps porn, perhaps other sinful behaviors.
The real test of whether you are gay or not will be if you can be happily partnered and sexually content in a heterosexual marriage. Most Ex-Gays including Allan Chambers, President of Exodus International, openly admit that they still struggle with same sex temptations.
How many real heterosexuals do you know who struggle with same sex temptations? It seems just simple common sense that if someone really is no longer gay, then they would no longer struggle with same sex temptations.
Heterosexuals struggle with opposite sex temptations.
Homosexuals struggle with same sex temptations.
Many gays and lesbians grew up in Bible believing churches, got saved at a young age and NEVER lived the kind of life you lived.
For them, being gay and Christian did NOT involve year after year of one night stands, did NOT involve cruising the bars every weekend hoping to pick up a sex partner, did NOT involve getting drunk, did NOT involve watching porn, did NOT involve taking drugs, did NOT involve the many self-destructive behaviors some folks associate with being gay.
Many gays and lesbians read their Bible, pray, witness for Jesus, serve God and live happy lives which DO NOT center around bars and sex and gay pride parades.
I have hundreds of pages of information on this website, explaining verse by verse, why the clobber passages do NOT refer to committed, faithful, non-cultic same sex partnerships.
Click any button on the NavBar and discover a spiritual, thoughtful, reasonable, Christ-centered discussion of what it means to be gay and Christian.
If you are happy and content to have left the lifestyle that ensnared you and made you unhappy, then I am happy for you.
I wish you God's blessing and provision as you walk the path of His purpose for your life.
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