If you're a gay Christian, does God still love you?

by Javon
(Hartford, CT)



"The love of God is wider
than the measure of our mind;
And the heart of the Eternal
is most wonderfully kind."



Yes, God absolutely positively DOES love gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Christians. And in case anyone is wondering, God has already demonstrated His love for gays and lesbians, transsexuals and bisexuals who are not saved yet, by becoming your Substitute, taking your place on the Cross, suffering the wrath of God to pay for your sins with His blood.

Just so there's no misunderstanding, God loves gay men in committed same sex partnerships and God loves lesbian women in committed same sex partnerships too. In plainer words, God doesn't stop loving you when you're partnered or gay married, if that's legal where you live. The evidence for God's love is clear, persuasive and unequivocal.

Are you a sinner?
If you are
God loves you!

"But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. " -Romans 5:8

"We love him (God), because he first loved us." -1 John 4:19

God: "He is the healer of the brokenhearted. He is the one who bandages their wounds." -Psalm 147:3, God's Word Translation

  1. God's love is relentless.

  2. God's love is bigger than your problems.

  3. God's love is bigger than your diagnosis.

  4. God's love is bigger than your depression.

  5. God's love is bigger than your lust.

  6. God's love is bigger than your fears.

  7. God's love is bigger than your debts.

  8. God's love is bigger than your anger.

  9. God's love is bigger than your enemies.

  10. God's love is bigger than your mistakes.

  11. God's love is bigger than your failures.

  12. God's love is bigger than your atheism.

  13. God's love is bigger than your agnosticism.

  14. God's love is bigger than your religious piety.

  15. God's love is bigger than your self-righteousness.

  16. God's love is bigger than your sexual orientation.

  17. God's love is bigger than your questions.

  18. God's love is bigger than your broken heart.

How to find God's Love


God seeks you when you think He's probably given up on you. God seeks you where you thought He'd never look for you.

Here's the key to finding God's love. God chose to make His love available through the Lord Jesus Christ. And God revealed His plan in the Bible. Here's what the Bible says about Jesus as the way to God.
"Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me." -John 14:6

The Name of Jesus: "Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. " -Acts 4:12

Yes indeed,
God DOES love you!


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Mar 11, 2010
Thank you!
by: RC

Rick!!! Thank you sooooo much for your words of encouragement and wisdom daily! You are such an inspiration and gift to so many!

Your book, GayChristian101, is blessing me and everyone around me tremendously! Thank you for being so thorough and honest!

Mar 19, 2010
I'm pleased to know my book is helpful to you!
by: Rick Brentlinger

Thanks RC! It encourages my heart to know that the book I wrote is helping people understand God's loving kindness toward gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgendered people.

I'd love to hear more about what God is doing in your life and in the lives of those around you.


Nov 29, 2011
Thank you for the reminder!
by: Chuck

Thank you so much for putting the above article into words I can read. I am a gay Christian who is bi-polar. I struggle many days to find the will to keep going. I battle demons who play upon my lustful thoughts and many other issues. It is so good to see it written on a page that God is greater than any problem I may endure in this life. It brought tears to my eyes to read these things.

My partner and I recently adopted two precious twin boys and I need strength every day to be the best Christian father I can be. Thank you for your amazing book that helps me fight the demons of doubt. May God bless you and your work!

Feb 15, 2012
I've been taught that God hates homosexuality
by: Anonymous

What about Romans 1:26-27 which condemns homosexuality. God does love homosexuals but totally hates their sin (at least that's what I've been taught).

Rick's comment: Thanks for asking that question. Here are my Bible based answers.

1. What is Biblical repentance?

2. What about Romans 1:26-27?

3. Do I need to trust Jesus and get saved?

4. Once Jesus saves me, will I have eternal security?

Nov 24, 2012
really struggling
by: Shane

Rick, I am an FtM transperson and I've known about your site for several months now, leaving comments here and there under a couple of different names. I want to say thank you for keeping this up here because it's helped me in so many ways and I'm thankful I'm not the only one out there who loves God and the Bible and accepts LGBTs

That said though, I'm having an extremely difficult time at home. I'm 17 and I'll be moving out of the house in about 8 months, but my parents and I are having a rough time getting along (especially my dad).

I've fully explained to him how I feel and everything but he remains very cold toward the idea of transgenderism. I've told him I sometimes get panic attacks and extremely depressive moments due to dysphoria, but he always manages to turn it around and say that if I'm not happy I must not be close enough to God

I'm in a sort of desperate situation right now because I'm extremely depressed. I went to the doctor recently where I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. my parents tell me it's the enemy trying to "steal my joy" by convincing me to think in a "wrong way" even though I know it's not a sin for me to be who I am. However I don't know how to experience the "peace that passes all understanding" while suffering from depression

Can you please help me? I don't know what I'm supposed to do.

Nov 28, 2012
There is help and hope in Jesus
by: Rick Brentlinger

Hi Shane- I'm sorry life is so difficult for you right now. I know how difficult it can be to struggle with depression and other problems in life on top of that. I am not a trained counselor so all I can do is encourage you to seek help where you live and keep trusting the Lord.

As you walk through the FtM process, it helps to keep in mind just how much God loves you. If you've trusted Jesus as your Savior from sin, then you have the indwelling Christ and the Holy Spirit to help you through every problem you face.

Your parents are struggling to come to terms with a situation they did not cause and cannot change. Part of their reaction to you springs from frustration because they do not understand and cannot do much to help you become the daughter they are now losing.

Education is vitally important here. All of you need to work through this together if they're willing to do that, so that everyone understands what it means to be a FtM transperson.

If your parents are unwilling to get counseling with you, then you need to seek counseling on your own.

There are no quick and easy answers for depression. Those who have not struggled with depression tend to give advice like, Snap out of it. But people cannot snap out of depression. That kind of advice is as silly as telling someone with a broken leg to, Snap out of it, and expecting their leg to immediately be healed. Life just does not work that way.

I will tell you this. There is hope and joy and peace for you as you believe God and walk with Him through this difficult time. He will never leave you nor forsake you.

Dec 19, 2012
you can not be christian and be gay
by: tim maples

for those who teach that because you are partnered or married to the same sex is ok with god it is NOT. God say it is sin.god loves gays an lesbians he just doesn't like sin. there are no gray areas with god its either yea or nay right or wrong.they will be no gays or lesbians in heaven only former gays an lesbians who have repented (which means to turn away) from there sins.

read lev.chap. 20 vs.13 rom chap.1 vrs. 25-27 .
rom.chap 1 vs. 26 for this cause God gave them up unto vile affections; for even their women did change the natural use into that which was againt nature.1 corth. chap 6 vrs, 9-10.

Rick's comment: Hey Tim, on the NavBar under, What The Bible Says, will you take the time to read about the verses which you allege, condemn gays and lesbians? It always helps to know what you're talking about BEFORE you make inaccurate public statements with your name attached. Many thanks.

Dec 26, 2012
My sin?
by: Anonymous

Sin? What sin? I was born and as I grew up I realized I had absolutely no sexual attraction to women, only to men. I didn't ask for that nor did I choose it. I beg and prayed for God to make me straight. But I am how I was made. Does experiencing true love make me a sinner? I believe God does love me, I also believe I am not sinning.

Rick's comment: I agree with you that it is not a sin to be gay. It is not a sin to be in a gay relationship. It is not a sin to have sex in a committed gay relationship.

The Bible tells us: "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God." Romans 3:23. So apart from being gay, we are all sinners and we all need a Savior.

But the story does not end there. God made a way for every sinner to have their sins forgiven and be right with God. Forgiveness is possible because Jesus took our place. Jesus was our Substitute. On the Cross, Jesus took all God's wrath against our sins and paid the penalty for sin with His life's blood.

Then on the third day, Jesus arose from the dead, PROVING that God the Father had accepted His payment for our sins. Now, if you want to be saved, all you have to do is accept the payment Jesus made for your sins. God is already satisfied with the payment Jesus made for your sins. Will you be satisfied with Jesus' payment? Will you trust Jesus and get saved today?

Dec 30, 2012
gays don't understand repentance
by: Anonymous

hi look its good your teaching and yes god is love but you dont understand the repentance part... when a gay person belive and repents he must stop this filty act and change, he has to really want god and love god to change as god made adam and eve not adam and steve and yes we are all sinners but thats why god died for us that when he calls us he calls us to repentence just like he told protitutes not to sin no moreeeeeeeee amen

Rick's comment: You poor thing. I edited out most of your strange comment. I hope you get right with God soon and begin obeying 2 Timothy 2:15.

Always interpreting scripture in context will radically change your life for the better. Let's make 2013 the year you start studying the Bible in context.

Jan 27, 2013
Anxious
by: Anonymousc

I have recently had depression and anxiety. It makes anxious about my own thoughts a lot and if I am worthy of God. I thank him and ask him for help. I just feel like the depression gets in the way of any God and good feeling. I try to live by treating others how I wish to be treated and keep on keeping on. Otherwise I find it all difficult to understand.

I also think I might be bisexual, so this does add to my issues.

Rick's comment: Depression is often caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Many of the psychotropic drugs prescribed to treat depression end up making it worse. There are no easy answers.

I encourage you to seek treatment from a professional in your area. It is also important to do a lot of reading and study on your own so that you learn about depression and treatments for depression. You must be your own advocate to help insure that the treatment you receive is helping you.

Jan 28, 2013
blind will lead the blind
by: Anonymous

yes well of course rick you would cut some of my comments as disobedient children don't want to here gods truth, and because you know I spoke the truth you don't want others to see as you only want to hear sweets words , repent from this act and come to god all fornicaters homosexuals will not enter his kingdom , its in the bible read it don't read your own bible that you have made up in your mind read gods word and if you want to cut out this message do it no problem you don't want help that's your problem , then also delet me from this website , as paul said don't be company with fornicater remove that wicked one from you amen , the blind will lead the blind and both will fall into the ditch but theirs no point righting to you anymore as you don't like to here the truth you just want me to say oh its ok god is love he don't mind we all will go to heaven no problem lets all sin , come on rick wake up stop living the lusts of this world

Rick's comment: What is it with you moral cowards and mental midgets that you think you have the right to leave Anonymous spiteful comments and false teaching on this website? Put your real name with your views and I may let some of your goofy comments post. Why do you lack the courage to put your name with your vitriol?

Jan 30, 2013
just trying to help
by: Anonymous

rick my name is nora mohsen im not scared to say who i am , i have nothing against you but as christians we are to help eachother , to build eachother in the faith because i care for your soul as i should love my neighbur , and because your not sure of gods teaching it is worrying as you are teaching others that it is ok to do these acts, whats the piont of repenting if you dont have to repent , i dont think you know what repentence means...

yes rick now i know alot of people say but we are all sinners , we have all done wrong and yes there right, but thats why when we get called we repent of those sins that we did , or past, sins to wipe them away , become a new person, and as you know god said nothing that defiles will enter his kingdom, no fornicaters liars murderous so on, you see how apostle paul was a murderer look how god had changed him, from murderer to saint , he glorified god through him as he changed even the jews were wondering this man was a murder you see how they were suprised by how he changed, so as i said i have nothing against you but as a christian we should help eachother to build eachother up in the faith , as jesus said he is coming for a holy people, so you have to try stop, like we all had to repent , pray to god but dont just pray fast everyday fast and pray and cry out to him, he will help you he helped me overcome sins by praying with a true heart, yes he loves you but he wants you to repent dident he say repent and beleive in the gospel , his gospel tell sus no fornicaters will enter his kingdom he is giving you time to repent ,you have to truly want to please god before your self put him first your self second ,

Rick's comment: Hi Nora, thanks for commenting. I do provide a long and detailed Biblical definition of repentance on this website.

I encourage you to continue reading and studying your Bible. I do not advocate that anyone anywhere live in sin or live a sinful life. I encourage every born again believer in Jesus Christ to live a clean holy life.

Feb 21, 2013
My life jesus
by: ....

I love my God Jesus. He is my life. I am for him. He is the only true God among all religions. I love my Father Jesus Lord - amen!

Mar 15, 2013
we are all sinners
by: Anonymous

Time and time again the church say being gay is wrong. What about slander gossipping being angry unforgiveness? Gods speaks to all humanity, not just the gay community. We are all sinners.

Rick's comment: Amen! And Jesus is the ONLY answer for any sinner. God saves sinners by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone - No works, no religion, no water baptism, no sacraments involved.

Do you know for sure you are saved?

Apr 05, 2013
Is homosexuality really a sin?
by: Anonymous

We were having a deep discussion today in family life class if being homosexual is a sin. I think that it is alright to have feelings for people of the same sex but as long as you don't act on it, homosexuality is not a sin.

But I am still very confused and was wondering if anyone could help me with this. Besides, would God rather have now a days homosexuals who LOVE each other rather than heterosexuals who HATE each other?

Rick's comment: It is okay to be gay and it is okay to be in a committed gay relationship or a gay marriage. For more details, read our Gay Christian FAQ or just browse around this website. Many thanks for your comment.

Apr 09, 2013
Hey Rick
by: Justin Armistead

Rick I am gay and I have been told that god does not love homosexuals at all. But I know god loves everybody, he states that in the bible. But I wanted to know will God allow me in Heaven with my sexuality as the way it is, I love being myself all the time. And I am the president of my school's anti-bullying club and I enjoy that. But I just wanted to know will God accept me in his house. I hope he does. I love everybody and I am a kind and gentle person to others and I love myself the way I am. Thank you Rick for your time man, Have a great day.

Rick's comment: Yes, there will be gays in heaven just as there will be heteros in heaven. But remember that heaven is for saved people. Are you sure you are saved? Getting saved is not about being good or religious or getting baptized or joining the church or doing your best.

Getting saved from sin and from hell is about trusting Jesus Christ instead of trusting our own goodness. Blessings to you Justin, as you walk the path of God's purpose for your life.

May 02, 2013
Lesbian love
by: Anonymous

Hi Rick, I'm a woman who loves another woman. But the woman i love is marrying a man because that's what the bible says. Don't get me wrong, she does love me too. If she gets married,she'll be living a fake unhappy life. I don't know how to convince her or tell her it's okay to love same-sex because God loves all. Please help me! Thank you!

Rick's comment: I am so sorry to read this. I get emails from gays and lesbians who tried hetero marriage, thinking that would "cure" them of being gay or lesbian. It does not. It only creates unintended consequences to deal with for years down the road.

Arthur Schopenhaur wrote that "Obstinacy is the result of the will forcing itself into the place of the intellect." In their desire to live up to the expectations of others, some people, against all logic, by force of will determine to change their orientation. Those attempts do not work.

I wish I could be more helpful but in situations like this, all you can do is trust God and keep walking with Him in spite of what your beloved does. That is easy advice to give; difficult advice to follow. Yet at the end of the day, God is real, God is good and God is always right.

Bob Jones Sr. often told his students: "It's always safe to trust God -always!" It is not easy but it is always safe. So trust God and keep living for Him, is the best advice I can give you.

May 06, 2013
No Christian will be a Gay
by: Anonymous

Acts 11:26 "And when he had found him, he brought him unto Antioch. And it came to pass, that a whole year they assembled themselves with the church, and taught much people. And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch."

Christians are those that are ready to follow after the footstep of our LORD Jesus by the power of Holy Spirit after repenting from their sinful ways. Homosexuality is a sin sinful act. You can be a Christians and still continue in the sin of Homosexuality -or any form of sin for that matter.

For in Christ, there is no sin.
1 John 1: 5 – 7
5 This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.
6 If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth:
7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.
1 John 3: 1 - 10
1 Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not.
2 Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know
3 And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.
4 Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law.
5 And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin.
6 Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.
7 Little children, let no man deceive you: he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous.
8 He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.
9 Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.
10 In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother.
Lastly, if you want to continue sin, they forget being a Christian. However, if you are ready to repent, God is a loving father will accept any sinners that repent.
Romans 6:1-2
1 What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
2 God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein? Thanks.

Rick's comment: None of the scriptures you cited proves your assertion.

May 06, 2013
No Christian will ever be a gay!!!
by: Olufemi

Who is a Christian? Acts 11:26 "And when he had found him, he brought him unto Antioch. And it came to pass, that a whole year they assembled themselves with the church, and taught much people. And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch."

Christians are those that are ready to follow after the footstep of our LORD Jesus by the power of Holy Spirit after repenting from their sinful ways. Homosexuality is a sin sinful act. You can’t be a Christians and still continue in the sin of Homosexuality -or any form of sin for that matter.

Rick's comment: Okay, that settles the matter. No need to read any verses in context. No need for the anti-gay crowd to respond in any way to the arguments on this website. No need to think logically or rationally about these issues. No need to search the scriptures daily. Olufemi has spoken.

May 08, 2013
all sin will burn
by: nora

what dose revelation 21;8 say rick? why dont you teach yourself that and teach others , what did god say? dont be confounded to the things of the world the lust of the FLESH the lust of the eyes for all who do this is enmity with god , repent god bless

Rick's comment: Nora, you've accused me of lying but you have not specified any lies. That is an odd way to approach things. Do you feel like you're being honest?

May 10, 2013
Pls be careful
by: Freedom

I love how you guys have taken almost ever verse out of context which Is very dangerous. Gods love is immense far reaching and amazing. However his grace is not something to be taken for granted. God should firstly be feared and that fear then brings wisdom and then a healthy and scary love. This love for God should make us want to please him. And by the way guys once you have asked god into your heart it's all ok is rubbish. God has a plan for your life that he wants you to follow giving in to lust, anger, hate, unforgivness and every other sin will prevent the Holy Spirit raingning in our lives. God wants us to honour him with every fibre of our being he requires everything. Not just the bits we choose to give him. I have no idea how you are coming to the conclusions you are but I would encourage you. Please please Jesus could come back at any time if you were in front of him now would he be happy with how you explain his teachings. Would he be happy about how many people have read this and thought I am fine as long as I say sorry again and again. Would he be happy that he died gave up everything for people's lives only to have them get some of the blessings that he promises for a life that is directed by God. Take a look at Francis Chan everyone - Crazy Love I dare you.

Rick's comment: Your comments indicate you have not read this website with comprehension. Our views are clearly stated on this website.

Your assertion that we take almost every verse out of context indicates you are not very intelligent or that you are dishonest or that you are too focused on your anti-gay agenda to take time to tell the truth.

May 10, 2013
carnal minded leads to death
by: nora

look rick , it looks like you have made up your own mind in life, you rather go with your own choices than god's, paul speaks a lot about not doing these things , when some one give's you a verses where this act if forbidding you straight away give them something else from the bible, to try and justify your act , i think you need to read those verses people are giving you , stop running away from them , read romans again and see what paul says, it is very clear that he said you are carnally minded , so listen to him , he knew what he was talking about, he said to be carnal minded is death , so for your own good and the good of others dont telling people its ok, because think of what you will do there souls, just keep your mouth shut until you truly understand god and his scripture's because he says it very clearly about these thing's , god bless ,

Rick's comment: I find your comments interesting because it is clear that you've never studied these issues. You have no idea of the context of the verses you use to criticize what you read on this website.

What a sad commentary on professing christians, that from the vantage point of having no idea what you're talking about, you attack and criticize those of us who know the Lord and who have studied these issues.

Your assignment this week, without any further delay, is to read, memorize and obey 2 Timothy 2:15. Do. it. now.

May 28, 2013
Coming out to my family
by: Anonymous

Dear Rick, I am attending college and have recently started dating another man. I care for him greatly and I am very happy. My entire family is Roman Catholic and I don't know how to tell them. It's hard for me to be In a place where I don't feel welcome. Whether it be at home or in church with people who really don't understand the word and just go through the motions. I am afraid if I tell my parents they will stop helping with school and push me away. I Love my family and God so much but I just am tired of pretending to be something I am not no matter how much I pray God to change me. I hate that my roommates know me better than my family. Please help! :(

Rick's comment: It is important to know for sure that you are saved as you tackle these issues. Far too many people are cultural Christians instead of being born again Christians.

Coming out is something you do for yourself, not for your family. I encourage you to build friendships - be a friend to have a friend.

Pray about your situation every day and trust God to show you what to do and when to do it. Pray regularly with your boyfriend if he is open to that. God has blessing and joy and something significant for you to do in His service. He will make those plans clear as you walk with Him day by day.

Jun 05, 2013
are gays ok?
by: Anonymous

Leviticus 18:22 - "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; such a thing is an abomination."

Leviticus 20:13 - "If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them shall be put to death for their abominable deed; they have forfeited their lives."

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 - "Do you not know that the unjust will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be decieved; neither fornicators nor idolaters nor adulterers nor boy prostitutes nor practicing homosexuals nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God."

Okay, now even though it probably doesn't seem like it from what I just posted, I want to make it clear that I have absolutely no problem with homosexuals. I am just curious as to how this all makes sense. I have been looking around online at various different arguments about whether God does or does not accept homosexuals. I have looked at both sides of the argument too in a completely unbiased way. When I was looking at different views I noticed the above three quotes were often used (along with some others that I didn't have the time to type up).

To me, it kind of looks like the bible is directly stating that being a homosexual is bad, and it goes as far as to say it is an abomination and that they will be put to death for their sins. When I saw this, I thought there is no way that God could possibly accept homosexual people.

However, I don't feel like it is right that God wouldn't accept someone because of their sexual orientation. Can someone please try and disprove what I am thinking so I can trust and love in God again.

Sorry for any typos I may have; I typed this up in my phone.

Rick's comment: All of the scriptures you quoted are explained on this website. Please click on any NavBar buttons under, What The Bible Says. Many thanks for stopping by.

Jul 16, 2013
Im going through similar things
by: Taylor

I would like to go off of Shane's comment if that's ok, but I just want to offer some encouragement. I've felt very similar things. A couple of years ago, I was diagnosed with depression and I've been battling it for a long time. My point is that I'm still going through it, but God has been showing me the right path and it was just up to me all along to trust him and take it.

I've had bad experiences with heterosexual relationships and I have had feelings for my best friend for a while now. Ive never told her because she has a boyfriend and I was scared of loosing her friendship. I haven't even hinted my feelings to my parents but they both know I'm whole-heartedly a Christian woman.

I had been feeling bad about myself until I came upon this site recently. I just have to say, thanks so much, Rick and I know its a little late, but hang in there and God will make a way.

Rick's comment: Thanks Taylor for your kind and encouraging words. Much appreciated! God knows our needs and He will do what is best for us.

Aug 01, 2013
I still need help!
by: Anonymous

I am a gay person who is still struggling to believe the fact that God loves homosexuality. I have been taught that it is a sin and he will send me to hell for being gay. Then I got the idea that Christianity is sort of a hypocritical religion. I've also got the idea that the religion doesn't accept everyone even though it says it does. I was then starting to get worried about being a gay Christian. What should I do?

Rick's comment: First things first - the best preparation for being a disciple of Jesus is to know for sure you are saved. That means not trusting your good works, baptism, sacraments, confirmation, being a cultural Christian or grace allegedly flowing from a church and instead, trusting by grace alone through faith alone in Jesus Christ alone to save you.

Second, once you know you are saved, it helps to understand what happens when you get saved.

Third, once you understand what happened when you got saved, it helps to understand how long you are saved for. Is your salvation temporary or do you have eternal security?

Fourth, every Christian has struggles because being a real disciple of Jesus is not easy. To help you grow spiritually, I have 330 pages of FREE Bible studies you can print out and teach yourself the Bible at home.

Fifth, ALWAYS read the Bible in context. That includes biblical cultural doctrinal historical linguistic literary and religious context.

For answers to questions gay Christians ask, please read our Gay Christian FAQ.

Aug 07, 2013
It's more simple that you think
by: skinnedhornet

I think many people (mostly both ultra-conservative and ultra-liberal) drastically over-complicate this matter to suit their own ends. The Bible clearly says that homosexuality is a sin.

Rick's comment: I applaud your desire to bring common sense to the gay issue and I salute your kind heart toward the gay community. That is a blessing yet I must also point out that, No, the Bible does not clearly say that homosexuality is a sin. This website provides hundreds of pages of high quality carefully sourced info contradicting that claim.

But at the same time it shows that we are to show complete respect and kindness toward everyone no matter what their sin is.

Rick's comment: Again, I believe you are advocating a kind and loving attitude but let's phrase it more carefully. The Bible says nothing like the religious myth of unconditional love you've posited. The Bible encourages us to judge righteous judgment.

If we are mean and callous to a homosexual we only make their struggles that much more difficult. And to anyone who says that if you are a homosexual you will go to Hell, that is just completely false. The Bible says that those who reject Christ go to hell because He is the way.

Rick's comment: Now THAT is an excellent point. It has nothing to do with being gay or not. It has to do with whether we are saved by grace alone through faith alone in Christ alone and therefore are justified by faith, without any of our works being involved.

If a Christian Homosexual goes to Hell than I as a Christian will probably go to Hell for the sin of rage. Getting rid of homosexuality is not the way to heaven, Christ is the way to heaven.

Sep 05, 2013
my gay son
by: mommy123

My son came out a couple of years ago, and I didn't react the way I should. In my defense, I don't know if there's a right reaction. I was raised to believe that homosexuality is a sin, and I taught that to my children.

That's probably the reason why it took him so long to tell me. I never told him that I didn't love him, thank goodness, because I've loved him from the moment I found out that he was in my stomach.

Rick's comment: Mommy 123, these links contain information which will be helpful to you as you come to terms with having a gay son.

Do you love us enough to hear our heart?

Is sex in a committed relationship sin?

When is it appropriate for a same sex couple to begin a sexual relationship?

Does 1 Cor 7:2 exclude gays and lesbians from marriage?


I think of his boyfriend as my own son, but I won't let them sleep together in my home (his boy friend spends the night sometimes) because they are not married. They can't get married where I live, but marriage is in God's eyes not man.

I've struggled with the idea that my son is destined to hell, but if I ( a mortal mother) loves him so much, of course God does.

I recently lost my 5 year old son, and I am devastated. My son's boyfriend was an alternate pall barer-on my request. I've lost one child and I will not lose another because of my own ignorance. If your child tells you they're gay, don't turn your back on them. God didn't.

Mar 09, 2014
I wanna be a Christian but how?
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I have been raised in the church and that's all I know. I am married have 3 children and I have fallen in love with a woman. I have always had feelings for the same sex but have always been taught its wrong, and have believed its wrong but I met her and fell instantly in love. My husband and family and some of our church has found out. They're all praying for me to repent and turn away from this sin but they don't understand that what I feel for this woman is not about carnal pleasure. It is deeper than that. I see her and all I want is to hug her and never let go. I miss how active I was in the church and how I used to sing and praise the Lord and now I feel like the worst hypocrite if I do. I am struggling with loving her and giving up on God. But I really feel like she has my heart. I really just want to spend my life with her. I don't know what to do because I either live as though it never happened and let her go and keep living the life as I'm supposed to or give up on God and life as I know it and love her.

Rick's comment: You are in a difficult situation. When you got married and had children, you took on obligations and responsibilities to your husband and your children. The choices we make have consequences.

In some states, in the situation you've described, if you divorce your husband, you will most likely not get custody of the children. Is it worth losing your children for this woman?

You do not say whether or not this woman is saved nor do you say if you are saved. I encourage you to make sure you are saved.

Then you need to spend a lot of time praying and reading the New Testament scriptures until God gives you a clear answer. When God gives you a clear answer, write a note to yourself including the date, the time and circumstances and the passages of scripture God used to speak to your heart. Then obey God and do what He tells you to do.

Apr 08, 2014
Thank You
by: Jas

Thank you so much for this. It's so hard trying to be myself without being critizied and hated by so many, my parents are the main ones. I'm their only child and I feel like crap that's how they make me feel. I feel so blessed to have found this website.

Rick's comment: Hi Jas- it gets better. These struggling times do not last forever. God has joy and blessing for you. Hang tough with Jesus as your Savior and trust Him to work things out. He WILL do that. Blessings to you.

Jul 28, 2014
Sad and scared
by: Kei

I'm simply scared my bisexual tendencies are frowned upon and that I am not worthy of heaven-that I'm a disease or a disorder for simply liking my own sex a little. It makes me sad that I might be exempt from the glory of my gods love. I just hope it all turns out for the better. I am devoted to my religion and I hope my love for all genders in any way is not going to be seen as horrible anymore. I'm often alone and scared in my beliefs, caught in a crossfire between two "sides" I'm both on-LGBT and Christianity. Thank you for this reassurance. It's hard to swallow some times, but I have to keep going.

Rick's comment: Hi Kei - It's good to know FOR SURE that you are saved. The link explains how to know for sure.

Aug 13, 2014
Are we supposed to keep sinning?
by: Joe

I'm just wondering how you can say Gays can be Christians?
I'm not hating on anyone, just curious.
Are we not supposed to to repent of our sin?
Are we not to live filled with the Holy Spirit?
Are we supposed to keep sinning just because we now have Grace?
Because if that is the case the I guess I can keep being a drunkard
I can go around sleeping with who ever I want outside of marriage
I can hate who I want
I can steal what I want

Do you see the point I am making?
I'm not saying that while we are in the flesh we can live sinless life, but Romans 12:2 says

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. (‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭2‬ NLT)

I'm just looking for understanding on this.

Rick's comment: Hi Joe - excellent questions. This website exists to answer questions like the ones you've asked. Click on any NavBar link and start reading. You will discover that some of your presuppositions about what the Bible teaches are off the mark.

Also please check out my Gay Christian FAQ - I answer 100 frequently asked questions there. The short answer is, Grace is not an excuse for living in sin. You seem to believe that is what we are doing - using God's grace as an excuse to live in sin but we are not.

We believe that everyone is lost and everyone needs to repent and get saved by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone because He already died to pay the penalty for our sins and God has already accepted the penalty Jesus paid.

When we receive Jesus as our Savior from sin and from Hell, God the Holy Spirit applies the grace and salvation of God to us. After we get saved, we should go for God, live for Jesus and glorify God in all we do.


Oct 14, 2014
Thank you
by: Anonymous

You have no idea how happy I am to read this..

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