How should I deal with my transgender feelings?

by Anonymous
(Netherlands)

That’s an interesting question. When God saves us nothing in the Bible indicates that He changes our gender identity or our sexual orientation. Our God is the God of truth. Jesus called Himself “the Truth,” John 14:6. As disciples of Jesus Christ, God expects us to walk in truth.

“I rejoiced greatly that I found of thy children walking in truth... -2 John 4

“For I rejoiced greatly, when the brethren came and testified of the truth that is in thee, even as thou walkest in truth. I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.” -3 John 3-4

Our truth may be unpopular with friends, family and society in general. Yet we owe it to ourselves to ”walk in truth.” And here’s the truth as it is in Jesus. Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ spoke with startling clarity in Matthew 19:12 about born eunuchs.

Jesus told us some are born eunuchs, from their mother’s womb. In plainer words, they didn't chose to be eunuchs - they were born that way. The designation “born eunuch” includes gay men, lesbian women and transgender people

Just as gay men and lesbians do not need to be fixed by having their sexual orientation changed, so transgender people do not necessarily need to be fixed.

Some transgender children had a gender chosen for them by their parents or by a doctor. Some transgender children grew up always at odds with their assigned gender. Other transgender people strongly believe that only sexual reassignment surgery will make them feel whole.

There is not a “one size fits all answer” for this difficult issue. The Bible doesn’t say much about transgender issues. And as you will see, the Bible certainly doesn’t say what some anti-trans folks think it says about transgender issues.

For every Christian, the most important thing is to walk in God’s truth according to God’s will. As you grow strong in the Lord He will show you His plan for your life.

It is not God’s plan for you to struggle with loneliness and desperation because you’re trying to fulfill the unrealistic expectations of your biological family or your church family.

Life as a Christian works best when you “Walk in the Spirit,” Galatians 5:16, and learn to follow God instead of Christian fads or Christian opinions which are not based on scripture rightly divided, 2 Timothy 2:15. God doesn’t create automatons therefore God does not expect you to spend your life trying to please people who cannot even understand your situation.

As you grow in the Lord, God will give you some of the answers you seek. He probably will not give you all of the answers. We will struggle with some issues our entire lives because after all, God expects us to live by faith, Hebrews 11:1-6.

I encourage you to prayerfully consider Galatians 3:28.

“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.”

On a practical level, I encourage you to pursue spiritual growth by learning what the Bible says in context. We offer FREE Bible Study downloads to help you grow spiritually.

You may also find my book Gay Christian 101 helpful since it explains what the Bible does and does not say about gays and lesbians.

My website pages on eunuchs may also be informative so that you learn a balanced Christian perspective instead of the anti-gay anti-trans perspective so prevalent in Christian circles. God loves you regardless of what some Christians say.

Additional information

Transvestism?

A Transgender Comes Out

Original question:

“Hi - I am a 28 year old Indian male suffering from gender identity disorder. My gender identity perception has always been female as early as I can remember. But female feelings and emotions got more pronounced during adolescence. Then I'd acted on it secretly.

The point is I don’t consider myself gay. I rather consider myself straight because mentally I'm a female and thus my strong attraction towards the male sex. But then things changed when I got saved when I was 20. I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Saviour.

But since then I've been perceiving my gender identity disorder as the "thorn in my flesh" I had to bear and that God's grace would be sufficient for me to undergo all the struggles, that God had a purpose in my being this way.

But now I come across your site and I'm hit with confusion, as the scriptures in Revelation and other passages were imprinted so strongly in my mind that I'd begun to see that my sexuality was a daily temptation I had to fight but now I am not sure because I hold onto the scripture by every word of it and cannot actually perceive that it holds different meanings in different times.

My prayer to the Lord would always be pertaining to this internal conflict I've been having all these years. So please make things clear as to what should I do with regard to my sexuality. And I could never come out as I'm from a very conservative society in India.”

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