Reconciling my faith with being gay

by Scott
(Phoenix)

Jesus saves gays and lesbians<br>bisexuals and transgendered people

Jesus saves gays and lesbians
bisexuals and transgendered people



I was raised Roman Catholic and am one of the few Catholics I know who had positive experiences with the church growing up. I have faltered in my faith as we all do but God has always been my rock and Jesus my Savior.

I've been attracted to men at least since I was a young adolescent. It was only in young adulthood that I questioned whether I was gay or bisexual but I could not accept it then, due to my culture, religion and upbringing. I've always had the dream/ideal that I would get married and have a family.

I simply told myself that I just needed to date women as much as I could and God would lead me to the one who would be my wife. I tried to suppress any desires, feelings and thoughts I had about men. I tried to pray away the gay to no avail.

Last year, at the age of 40, I had been dating a woman for two months. One day, I was thinking about how I felt about this woman. And the floodgates opened. I sobbed uncontrollably and I told myself that I could not live like this anymore. I cried aloud that I was gay and it was time to come out.

Over the period of one year, I came out to all of my friends, most of my family. and some of my co-workers. I have never felt more open, loving and at peace than during this past year.

Some of my friends and co-workers have remarked at the positive changes in me. And I have to agree. I was living in a self-imposed cocoon for so many years. I reconciled my sexuality and my identity as a gay man with my faith fairly quickly.

God wants me to be my true self, my whole self. And this was only possible once I accepted that I am a gay man. God has made me whole and I am now able to live more fully for Him.

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Apr 12, 2011
From our Savior's lips....
by: Sparrow

"Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed."
(John 8:36)

God bless you, Scott... it's the most wonderful season of all to fully realize one's own resurrection in Him.

I am in full agreement, despite what most "Christians" would have us think: if the Lord doesn't make mistakes, and all His work is perfect, then neither did we gay brothers and sisters, who were made by Him, somehow elude His divine providence and blessing.

Apr 12, 2011
The Judge rules...
by: Sparrow


"Woe to the one who quarrels with his Maker--
An earthenware vessel among the vessels of earth!
Will the clay say to the potter, 'What are you doing?'
Or the thing you are making say, 'He has no hands'?
Woe to him who says to a father, 'What are you begetting?'
Or to a woman, 'To what are you giving birth?'"

(Isaiah 45:9-10)


Are we to believe that this is true for EVERY HUMAN BEING who has ever lived -- no matter how "flawed" -- EXCEPT us gay brothers and sisters????

Feb 16, 2017
How do you do it?
by: Connie

I'm a Christian, and I'm really curious as to how you get accepted into the Christian community and the Church. Do you (and your church) just ignore 1 Timothy 1:8-11
and 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and John 14:15. I'm really interested in your reasoning on that, please enlighten me! Thanks =)

Rick's comment: Hi Connie - Please look on the NavBar under, What The Bible Says In Context.

I edited your comment. I have extensive sections on this website about the clobber passages. And, I have already posted hundreds and hundreds of comments from people quoting the clobber passages.

For those reasons, I no longer allow people to keep posting the clobber passages over and over. Been there - Done that and have already explained it in detail.

I hope you will take time to do some reading and study because answers are available if you are serious about finding them.

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