Actually God has a lot more grace toward gays and lesbians than some Christians give Him credit for. God saves gay men and lesbians and leads some men to partner together and some lesbians to partner together, just like He saves heterosexuals.
To have the blessing of God in your life requires an honest heart, honesty before God and with each other and a sincere desire to obey God.
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