Is being gay or lesbian a gift from God?

by Sparrow

Rick Brentlinger Answers -

That's an interesting question. No, I do not view being gay or lesbian as a gift from God in the sense of being a spiritual gift, like those listed in 1 Corinthians 12:4-20. I view being gay as just a fact of life, much the way heterosexuals view their opposite sex attraction as just a fact of life.

In a general sense, we could say that being homosexual or heterosexual is a gift from God, much like hair color, mechanical or musical aptitude or good health are gifts from God.

We know that God does everything He does with a purpose. When God causes a gay or lesbian person to be "so born from his mother's womb," Matthew 19:3-12, whether or not we describe that as a gift, it is certainly part of God's plan.
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I cannot view being gay or lesbian as being on par with the spiritual gifts because that does not make sense to me. If being homosexual or heterosexual is a spiritual gift then lost people have at least that spiritual gift. Yet scripture nowhere indicates that God bestows spiritual gifts on folks who are not saved.

I do believe that being gay has given me more empathetic insight than many heterosexuals have when dealing with those who are outcast and oppressed for things over which they have no control.

At some point in the past, I have probably spoken of being gay or lesbian as a gift from God but again, in the more general sense of gifts, not in the specific sense of gay or lesbian orientation being a Biblical spiritual gift.

All of our experiences, whether we are homosexual or heterosexual, are intended to inform our intellect and make us better, not bitter. As Christians who are redeemed by the blood of the Lamb, we are special in God's eyes because of our personal saving relationship with Jesus Christ. Being "in Christ," is what makes us special, not being gay or straight, homosexual or heterosexual. And our salvation in Jesus Christ IS "the gift of God which is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord." -Romans 6:23

"Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." -2 Corinthians 5:17

"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ:" -Ephesians 1:3

"And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus:" -Ephesians 2:6

"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them." -Ephesians 2:10

"But now in Christ Jesus ye who sometimes were far off are made nigh by the blood of Christ." -Ephesians 2:13

"There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus." -Galatians 3:28

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Original Question:

"Pastor Rick, I have heard and occasionally read the perspectives of true, God-fearing Christian gay men and women speak of both the "curse" of our unique path (i.e., the lonely life it can be, of which we're well aware), but also, the "gift" of it....

Some have come full-circle to view their homosexual orientation as a gift from God -- to have been afforded a unique and rarefied perspective on life is something that they could never have had with a set of "straight" eyes.

My question: have you yourself ever viewed your orientation as a special gift from God -- a rare vision that has broadened you and more fully completed your journey on this planet? Or, is it to you indeed no more a rarefied "gift" than having a certain color of hair or eyes?"

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Mar 10, 2010
Like 3-D Glasses
by: Sparrow

Thanks so much, Rick... I did not mean "gift" in terms of the spiritual gifts listed in Scripture...

I just meant it as a unique insight... as if God gave me 3-D glasses to better "see" the movie of life.

I could experience the movie without the glasses, but oh, what a difference the glasses make as far as an enriched (albeit extremely painful at times) experience.

Mar 18, 2011
Yet you've never studied the context
by: Rick Brentlinger

@ Maegan - Quoting scripture as if it means what you think it means, when you have never studied the Greek words used in the passage you quote, when you have no idea of the cultural, historical and religious context the original scripture addressed, is rather odd.

I hope you will rein yourself in a bit and take time to study the Bible before you insist that being gay or lesbian is purely a choice of the individual.

I find it odd that you would make this comment after I've sent you Links to so much information. Please do not close your mind to God's truth nor your heart to God's gay and lesbian children.

Jan 06, 2012
I'm Sorry
by: Maegan

My previous comment was much uncalled for, and i apologize for that. But, I read and thought about the info that you sent me, and i still came to the personal understanding that being gay or lesbian is not a gift from god...

I still think it's wrong, and i collect my opinions from the Bible. I'm truly sorry for my previous outburst. And i would like to add that i have friends who are lesbian, gay, and bi, and i hate NO ONE for their choice to be so. I just don't agree with it personally.

Rick's comment: Maegan's previous comment (and Mary's comment) have been deleted.

May 10, 2013
by: Scott

Hello fellow humans :D - I came across this site and many others in opposition to it (such as God hates Fags etc) because I myself am and have been struggling with same sex attraction and sexuality in general for most of my life.

On the one hand, this site has opened my eyes to a new perspective of a never-ceasing debate on "homosexuality" and what it is, what it isn't etc.

Conversely, I feel more stretched mentally as to whom is right, man or God? God made man but as we can see through day to day life and the bible, man sins. I personally sin all the time!

I agree to an extent that context has to be taken into account when reading scripture but from my own opinion (which is all it is, an OPINION) is the point in the bible, of any religions to transcend time, culture, personalities etc.

My doubts are my own and I accept that. I have seen for myself the work of God and the very fact I type these words is conducive of God. I just don't know who I am. The problem I have is that, many Christians and people in general state God gave us free will. I accept that totally. However, in terms of homosexuality, does that mean it is a sinful behavior such as lying and that ANYONE is capable of it?

I welcome debate and inspiration from others so that I may come closer to the truth, whatever that may be. With love.

Rick's comment: Hi Scott - It is important to know for sure you are saved. Then the other questions will become easier to answer.

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