How does a mature gay Christian define sexual sin?
(Los Angeles, CA.)
How does a mature gay Christian define sexual sin is such a wonderful question Mollie. I've answered a similar question already, Since gay couples cannot legally marry is sex in a committed relationship sin?
In the context of your question, sexual sin is having sex outside a committed relationship, whether that committed relationship is called heterosexual marriage or gay marriage or holy union or civil union or some other name.
While I agree with you that God intends sex as part of a marriage or committed relationship, it seems to me your unasked question is, Since gays and lesbians cannot legally get married, isn't all gay or lesbian sex sinful? My answer is No.
I don't believe it is hypocritical for gay Christians to "have sex outside of marriage" as long as they are in a committed relationship with their sexual partner. In plainer words, the fact that it is not legal in most places for gays and lesbians to marry an orientation compatible partner does not mean they have no options.
If the federal government passed a law outlawing heterosexual marriage, would all heterosexuals be obligated to get divorced and remain celibate the rest of their lives? Of course not. It is basic common sense to apply the same logic to gay marriage.
People make statements like, God says in the Bible that the only permissible sex is in a marriage between a man and a woman.
Or, The only kind of marriage God will bless is between a man and a woman.
The truth is, the Bible never makes those statements. Those statements are someone's opinion instead of being what the Bible really says. Is there any evidence of a gay marriage in the Bible?
In the Bible the marriage of Adam and Eve was when flesh joined flesh. In Genesis 2:24 there were no churches in which to hold a wedding, no pastors, priests or rabbis to perform the ceremony, no marriage laws, no civil unions, no holy unions, no marriage licenses from the county, state or federal government.
The first Marriage in the Bible was when a man and a woman committed to live together as partners - no ceremony like we have today, no legal papers, no one officiating the wedding except perhaps God Himself.
And there were no wedding rings exchanged, no rice thrown. Yet it is important to remember that the story of Adam and Eve is descriptive, not prescriptive. It describes what happened with the first two people God created. God never tells us every other marriage must replicate the Adam and Eve marriage.
To read into the narrative of Adam and Eve that the only marriage God will bless is a marriage exactly like theirs, one man with one woman, is to read someone's opinion into the Bible.
Modern conservative family values are far different than family values in the Old Testament. We know God blesses marriages unlike the Adam and Eve marriage because God blessed the incestuous polygamous marriage of Abraham, Sarah and Hagar, Genesis 16. And later God blessed the marriage of Abraham, Keturah and the concubines, Genesis 25.
When Jacob came along a few chapters later, God blessed his marriage to four women and used the offspring of their polygamous marriage to form the twelve tribes of Israel.
A mature gay Christian always defines sexual sin by what the Bible actually says, not by what the Bible is presumed to teach. We base our beliefs on the written words of God, rightly divided, 2 Timothy 2:15.
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Mollie's original question:
"How does a mature gay christian define sexual sin?
I don't believe I should have sex until I get married because that is what God says in the bible. A lot of gay christians I know say it is okay to have sex even if they are not married. I feel we are being hypocritical to say it is okay for gay christians to have sex outside of marriage when it is clearly documented in the bible that it is not okay. So, how does a mature gay christian define sexual sin?"