Gay marriages can't produce children so case closed, right?

by Name withheld
(but you know who you are)

Rick Brentlinger Answers -

That's a very interesting question. Let's look at it from a scriptural viewpoint.

Does the Bible forbid
barren women and sterile men
from getting married?

Certainly not. Abraham and Sarah were married for about 70 years before God blessed them with children. God did not regard Abraham and Sarah being unable to produce children as an impediment to their long and happy marriage, Genesis 12:3ff.

There are seven barren women in the Bible, six of whom eventually were blessed by God to bare (1 Samuel 1:20, KJV) a child. Its interesting to note that each of these once barren women produced male children.

  1. Sarah
  2. Rebekah
  3. Rachel
  4. Sampson's mother
  5. Hannah
  6. Michal, David's wife (never had children)
  7. Elizabeth, mother of John Baptist

Gay marriages can't produce children
so case closed, right?

Not so fast pal. Let's take the time to think it through. Nowhere does scripture reserve marriage only for those who are capable of reproducing. If marriage was only for those who can produce children, then older folks who are past child-bearing could not marry.

Are you willing to prohibit senior citizens from marrying simply because they cannot have children?

If marriage was only for those who can produce children, then barren women and sterile men could not marry.

Are you willing to prohibit barren women or sterile men from marrying simply because they cannot have children?

You see, the problem for you really isn't that two men or two women cannot biologically reproduce by themselves. The problem for you is that you don't like the idea of gay marriage.

So, you're drawing a false conclusion - that married folks must produce children or its not a legitimate marriage when really, that's not what you believe at all.

Thankfully God doesn't make the claim and the Bible never makes the claim that only folks who can produce biological children are allowed to marry.

Your real problem seems to be an unloving, unChristlike heart. You are so focused on "proving" that God wouldn't bless a same sex marriage that you employ faulty logic to support your false assertion.

What does the Bible say?

"To the law and to the testimony: if they speak not according to this word, it is because there is no light in them." -Isaiah 8:20, KJV

"Owe nothing to any one except mutual love; for he who loves his fellow man has satisfied the demands of Law."
-Romans 13:8, Weymouth

"Love does no harm to its neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law." -Romans 13:10, NIV

For Christians, "the law of liberty," James 1:25, includes treating our brothers and sisters as we would like to be treated. Jesus said: ""Treat others the same way you want them to treat you." - Luke 6:31, NASB

How many non-gay Christians refuse to consider the needs of their gay brothers and lesbian sisters? Isn't it about time you started obeying the Jesus you profess to love and serve?

Gays CAN have children

Many gay male couples and many lesbian female couples have children. How did they accomplish that allegedly impossible task? Some of them entered heterosexual marriage because they were told that getting married would cure them of being gay.

They found little emotional, physical, psychological, romantic or spiritual attraction in their opposite sex partner and for the good of both individuals, they ended the marriage and now share the parenting of their biological children.

Some gays and lesbians who were wise enough not to marry a heterosexual partner have children in other ways.

How gays can have children

  1. Surrogacy - is a way of reproduction in which a woman agrees to get pregnant and provide a child for someone else.

  2. In-Vitro fertilization - involves fertilizing an egg outside the womb and then implanting the fertilized egg into the prospective mother's womb. Many non-gay couples use this method to have children, as do some gay and lesbian couples. Gay couples combine Surrogacy with In-Vitro fertilization.

  3. Adoption - involves taking a child into one's family through legal means and then raising that child as one's own child. Adoption has a long and honored history in the Bible.

Adoption is a Godly option

A. Eli, the apparently widowed, elderly Priest of Israel, as the informal adoptive father chosen by Samuel's mother, raised young Samuel to become the great, character-driven Priest-Prophet of Israel, 1 Samuel 1:28, 2:20, 26, 35, 3:1ff.

B. Christians are described as adopted into the family of God, Ephesians 1:5

C. Joseph was the adoptive father of Jesus, Luke 2:27, 33, 41

D. True religion isn't necessarily procreation but instead, is defined as "to look after orphans," James 1:27, NIV, which often includes adoption.

Wouldn't it be a shame if thoughtless heterosexual Christians, in their zeal to press the letter of the law upon their gay brothers and lesbian sisters, instead drove them away from the Savior who longs to save and bless them?

David and Jonathan were probably an intimately partnered, same sex couple.

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Oct 02, 2009
Ignorance is alive and well!
by: Dorothy

...and surviving beautifully with its ingrown kinfolk -- hatred, bigotry, and arrogance. What an incredibly ignorant, stone-age question.

Jun 11, 2013
homosexuals cannot produce offspring....PERIOD!
by: Anonymous

correct me if im wrong - can two same sex humans have sexual intercourse and produce children? NO they can't!

show me ONE case where a man has had sex with another man and somehow one got pregnant and had offspring.

show me ONE case where a woman has had sex with another woman , got pregnant and had offspring.

it doesnt exist because you have to have sperm and an egg to make a human. this would tell me that for LIFE to continue you have to have a union between a man and woman. PERIOD

all this crap you are arguing about - adoption, fertilization, and a gay having sex with a hetero to have a child, it is deflecting from the original question - "Gay marriage cant PRODUCE children so case closed, right?" Case closed is right! two people of the same sex cannot have offspring!!!! ARGUE THAT!!!!!!

Rick's comment: Can two sterile heterosexuals have sexual intercourse and produce children? NO they can't! A sterile heterosexual man or woman cannot produce offspring, so they should not be allowed to get married so case closed, right?

Can two elderly heterosexuals have sexual intercourse and produce children? NO they can't! An elderly man and woman cannot produce offspring so they should not be allowed to get married so case closed, right?

Yet you think it is okay for THEM to marry.

I'm beginning to see your logic. It isn't really about producing children with you. You just don't like gays and this is something you can use to express your dislike under the guise of being biblical. Yep, we've got YOUR number kiddo.

Nov 15, 2013
What the Bible says
by: Anne Andrew

The Bible tells us to "love one another as I have loved you." Jesus loves us sufficiently to say to us "Your sins are forgiven." But that isn't the end of the statement. "Go and sin no more".

Many will argue that the word "homosexual" does not appear in the New Testament, and that as a consequence homosexuality is just another way of expressing love. God clearly states in Romans 1, which is written to the Christians in Rome, that there were those who "although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened...

Therefore God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion."

Never were those relationships described by God as loving relationships. They came about as a result of the sin of lust and as such come under the same judgment of the need for confession and repentance - "Go and sin no more".

Until we bite the bullet in the church and call ourselves and each other to account for our sins whatever they are - not just homosexual sin - we will continue to live displeasing to God and lacking His power.

Accountability, in all areas of life, costs. But the reward for the Christian who holds himself accountable to his fellow Christian and to God, is growth in Christlikeness. It's this Christlikeness that makes our lights shine and which exposes the "evil deeds of darkness."

Jesus said "my yoke is easy and my burden is light". So many are burdened by so much more than God desire them to carry. He carried the penalty for our sin and made the way back to the Father for us. But "straight is the way and narrow is the gate". We are called to lives on the straight and narrow, not on the broad path to destruction.

Love is more than "I love you". Love is "I love you too much to not call you to account.

Rick's comment: I'm sure you mean well yet I encourage you to read the truth on this website. You're missing God's truth by a country mile and doing great harm to your gay brothers and lesbian sisters.

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